Reassurance seeking is a technique that everyone, as perceptive humans, partakes in from time to time. Attaining the reassurance we seek puts the attention on us and makes us feel better about ourselves.
Often times, we purposely make ourselves the brunt of jokes and put ourselves down for fun, but self-deprecation can take this to a different level. Self-deprecation is properly defined as “modesty about or cynicism of oneself.”
If you’re reading this blog, chances are you’re in the market for a new therapist. If that’s the case, you’ve probably also encountered a TON of options on who to see. For example: Do you want... a therapist with a particular specialty?Someone who’s going to “push” you? One with a lot of experience? A warm listener? A more affordable option? The “best of the best?”
There is no manual or how-to on being a perfect parent. So you might find yourself questioning whether your decisions are beneficial or detrimental to your children and their growth and development. Today, we are talking about what healthy parenting looks like and how that helps them in their journey to happiness and success.
In the vast world of psychology, we constantly encounter various forms of therapy. These therapeutic tactics help practitioners and patients dig deep and work together to pinpoint and correct thoughts and behaviors. A widely used form of therapy is called Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or “DBT.”
Dr. Vaughn and Sally Roesch, as well as some of the other members of the PSYCHe team, use Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy to break down social signals. Signals we give off are more powerful than most people realize, even through texting and social media. Are you thinking about how other’s might interpret your social signals? Are you getting your objective across?
If you are experiencing depression, anxiety, relationship problems or any other psychological condition that’s affecting your daily life, it might be time to see a therapist. Deciding you need therapy is half the battle, but once you’re on board with the idea, how do you find the right therapist?
Mentalization Based Therapy (MBT) is an evidenced-based treatment (meaning it has lots of research behind it) which was originally designed to treat Borderline Personality Disorder. However, like many therapies and counseling techniques, its range has grown beyond its original purpose to include many mood disorders and to address self-harm behaviors.
When entering any relationship, it’s common to not think about how the break up (unless you are super doom-and-gloom but that’s for another post). So the first thought of “therapy isn’t working” or “I really don’t like my therapist” can feel unexpected. Breaking up with your therapist can be daunting. However, if you follow these steps you might be surprised that breaking up with them is the most therapeutic thing you can do.
In a recent session with an adolescent client, I interrupted, “Wait, what did you just say?” The discussion revolved around setting boundaries and the client was referencing a conversation with a friend. I thought I might have misheard…
As she holds the new dress up and wraps it around her body Jenna gasps in amazement, “Ohhh.. I am obsessed!” Now, if you are truly this gal’s friend, then you probably shouldn’t congratulate her. Why? Because you might instead consider expressing your most sincere condolences.
If you are a human being, you have likely experienced your fair share of “Grinches” blocking the path of cheer. Yes, the “Grinch” may show up as a complaining family member, a pessimistic coworker, a passive-aggressive boss, road ragers, or the snarky person in a hurry at the check-out line of the grocery store, but today, I’m actually referring to the “Grinchiness” inside of YOU (and me!).
‼️ TRIGGER WARNING ‼️ This buzzword of the month has the capacity to “trigger” the “triggered.” If you test your resiliency and read the entirety of the article you might just learn that you are in fact, not triggered—which in itself, might be triggering.
This randomized clinical trial utilized a 6-month model that included weekly individual therapy, weekly group therapy, therapist consultation meetings, and parent contact as needed. The study showed that adolescents participating in this DBT treatment model displayed higher treatment completion and an overall decrease of repeated suicide attempts.
Life with social anxiety can feel like a constant exposure to one's greatest fears. If one's threat system is constantly being activated, options for coping may seem limited...it's either "GET THE HELL OUT" or "FIGHT LIKE HELL." That doesn't seem fun--does it?! While the issue of social anxiety may seem complicated, the solutions are simple but require constant practice. Check out these three tips to jumpstart coping for social anxiety.
It’s surprising the blank stares or embarrassed facial expressions I get in response to this question. Or how often I reflect on the day and realize that breakfast bar has long since run its course. Enter DBT PLEASE! Not please more DBT, rather, the PLEASE skill from the Emotion Regulation module of Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
Patients sometimes ask personal questions about my past experiences during their therapy sessions. Instead of doing the whole “sneaky therapist” trick of responding to their questions with my own questions, or deflecting in some way, I will usually just answer them.
In a world of text messages, ordering online, and in-store pickup, one can try to go their entire day without speaking to a single soul! However, studies are showing that loneliness is a rising cause of depression and anxiety. Artificial intelligence may be the wave of the future, but it is not our present.
Let me begin by stating the obvious; you care about your child’s wellbeing and want to be sure that you do everything in your power not to be “the reason” he or she seeks professional psychological help in adulthood. Every parent has the cliché nightmare of being the main topic of conversation during their adult child’s therapy sessions. One of the most effective ways to mitigate this is to hook your kid up with a therapist quickly once you first notice a problem.
Whether you’ve got a closet that’s a disaster zone or your entire space needs a major overhaul, organizing can be a daunting task. These steps will give you the confidence to tackle that project you’ve been putting off. Trust me, this will be worth it.
It’s mid July and for many families, that means (gulp) considering back-to-school preparations. While all kids can benefit from these recommendations, for those with histories of depression, anxiety, and/or attention problems, these steps can be critical to preventing a life threatening escalation of symptoms.
My professional opinion? In the media there’s sometimes a fine line between working to “end the stigma” and romanticizing mental illness, but the controversial teen series “13 Reasons Why” isn’t one that walks that line.
The ability to validate is crucial to making and maintaining relationships. Validation expresses to another person that we hear them, they matter, and they aren't crazy. It's a skill that must be taught as, unfortunately, some of us think we are super validators, yet we often stick our foots in our mouths and do just the opposite.
One of my main jobs as a Clinical Psychologist these days is to continuously remind parents that they, not their children, are in charge. I say this explicitly, both in person and while coaching parents over the phone. I actually get paid for that. You can blame the now defunct "child-centered parenting" movement of the 1960's for that last part.